When you’re in recovery from an addiction, you need all the support you can get from your counselor, family, and friends. However, at our Sacramento rehab center we explain that “support” implies interactions that are helpful in nature. Unfortunately, it’s possible that some of the people who you consider friends will be unable or unwilling to truly support you. If that’s the case, it’s a difficult thing to do, but the best course of action for you is to end that relationship.
How Will I Know?
It’s understandable that we tend to overlook the flaws of our friends. But if you start seeing any of these signs with them, it’s probably time to part ways:
- They have a perpetually negative outlook on life. Yes, life can be hard. You, a recovering addict, know that as well as anyone. But when you’re trying to create a more positive future for yourself, the last thing you need is someone who is constantly raining on your parade.
- They are excessively critical of you. Do you need honest feedback on your efforts and how things are going? Absolutely. But you do not need someone who is using “honesty” as a cover for being mean or spiteful.
- They don’t want you to recover. If the cornerstone of your friendship with someone is that you both have problems with substance abuse and they are still using, it’s possible that they don’t want you to get healthy. Instead, they would selfishly prefer that you continue to validate their lifestyle by sharing in it.
- They don’t honor your boundaries. As you work to change your habits and your lifestyle, you’ll have to make new rules for yourself. A good friend will understand this and be respectful of this change. If someone refuses to respect your boundaries, it may be time to cut them loose.
- They are exclusively focused on their own needs. It should be a red flag if, as you are starting into an especially challenging period of your life (i.e., recovery), your friend is only interested in talking about their problems and their needs.
The True Meaning of Friendship
At our outpatient drug rehab center in Sacramento, we know how important friendships are. And if you need to end one or more of them, we’re here to help you through that process and on toward better health and greater happiness. Contact us today to learn more about our programs.